Curiosity killed
the cat. Get it?
But seriously, I was curious to find out what
people class as cheating. Obviously, I’m
not talking
about academic
cheating, I’m
fairly certain
the majority
of us
have cheated
on a
test in
school, whether
that’s taking
a pencil
with the
timetables printed
on it
into a maths test, or its sneaking a peak at
your French oral, we’ve probably all
been there.
But I
don’t think
EVERYONE has
cheated whilst
in a
relationship.
First, I think you
can only really cheat on someone if you’re
actually in a relationship. If you’re
a couple.
I don’t
think you
can cheat
on someone
if you’re
not actually exclusive. So when I say cheating I’m
talking about
what would
you class
as cheating
if you
were in
a relationship with someone.
A monogamous
relationship where
it is
clear you’re
110% with
each other
and no
one else.
If you’re at
that awkward
stage where you’re flirting with
someone casually
then I
wouldn’t say
kissing someone
else is
cheating. However,
if you
have spoken
and your
intentions are
that something
will come
from this
flirting, such
as a
relationship, then
don’t cheat.
Someone I know thinks
they cheated on their now girlfriend with a friend of theirs, but I disagree.
This kid thinks he
cheated on her whilst they were not together. They had broken up and
weren’t talking
for a
while. Then
they started
talking and
were back
together but they called it off again. Then, he
kissed someone and now he’s delusional
enough to think he’s cheated on
her.
From what I know….
They were not
classing themselves as a couple. Yes, he might have started talking to her
again in a romantic way, but at the time they were not an exclusive thing.
So, first I asked
a bunch of ‘random’ people
this question:
“What do you
consider to
be cheating?”
“Flirting with someone
else in
a serious
way, being
touchy with
someone else,
seeing someone
else.” –
Jordan, 15 years old.
“Sleeping with someone
else, kissing
someone else,
etc.” –
Alice, 20
years old.
“To gain feelings
for someone or to physically be involved with them, like from sexual contact.
Even down to a kiss is a cheat. Messaging a girl, I don't care about as long as
they are just friends with each other.”
Kayleigh, 19
years old.
“I think getting
physically involved.” – Gülşah,
19 years
old.
“Depends on their
intentions.” Jess,
19 years
old.
“Hmmm I think
it depends,
like thinking
someone is
cute looks
wise is
okay, but
I wouldn't
be happy
if the
person I
was with
could see
themselves in
a relationship
with another person.” Jess, 19
years old.
“Flirting with someone
else. Because
after that
it's only
a matter
of time
before they
go and
sleep with
someone else.
The seed
had been
sown.” –
Anissa, 19
years old.
“Emotional
cheating-so like
flirting, clearly having feelings for another girl or
guy.” –
Georgia, 19
years old.
“Anything,
it’s not
difficult to
stay faithful
if you
really do
love someone
because you
can’t imagine
doing ANYTHING
else with
ANYONE else.”
– Jess,
64 years
old.
“It’s not good,
only kiss the one you love lots and lots.”
– Luca,
5 years
old.
Basically, anything
can be cheating, it’s a very
personal thing
and its
apparently subject
to a
lot of
terms and
conditions.
Then I asked, “Can you
cheat on
someone if
you’re not
mutually exclusive and you’re basically
just flirting
with them?
Does that
count as
having cheated
on them?
If you
kissed someone
whilst talking
to someone
else in
a flirty
way would
you have
cheated on
the person
you’re talking
to?”
“I think you've
been incredibly
disrespectful to that person but not necessarily cheated. If you're taking to
someone and telling them that you really like them/ want more with them then
just kissing someone else is a bit shit but ultimately, being single, you are
free to do as you please. If you're both just being flirty and know there is
nothing more there, then it must be kind of expected that you will both kiss/
like other people I suppose...” – Jess.
“Depends whether you
were seriously
flirting with
the person
or seriously
kissing someone because you liked them. If not, and
it was just as friends or it had no serious/deeper meaning then I don't think
it's cheating; but if so, then it's cheating. I just think if you like someone
you wouldn't kiss someone else or flirt with others just out of respect and
fondness for the one you like.” – Jordan.
“I would say
no, if
you're not
mutually exclusive,
because you're
both technically still free to see other
people. But I'd still be pretty hurt if we had a thing going on and he was
flirting with other girls.” – Georgia.
“If you’re not
exclusive it's
not cheating.
You don't
owe that
person anything
- you
are not
theirs and
they are
not yours.”
– Kayleigh.
Other things which were addressed:
To dump or not to dump? Tis the question...
Can you be in love with someone but fancy
other people at the same time?
THE conversation
Well, it was
interesting to read other people's views on cheating. Honestly, in the
situation I'm talking about I do NOT think he cheated on her, so he needs to
stop being so harsh on himself and I hope she isn't punishing the poor boy
for nothing. Also from what I know, she also kissed someone when
they weren't together, does that mean she cheated? Does that make them
even?
All I know is that
I hope these two forget all that and enjoy the time they have together. It's
rare you find someone so special when you're so young, cherish it.
Also, if it feels
wrong: don't do it. Or if you would be upset if the roles were reversed; don't
do it.
Who knows!
Thank you to these
not so random people for answering my questions. You're
incredible.
Follow me on twitter and instagram because I'm pretty cute
sometimes, @chantelle_kiran.
Until next time,
remember I've said it so it must be true....
Chantelle7
